I have never liked to fail at anything. So when I didn’t catch on too quickly at riding a two-wheeler in second grade, I gave up quickly.
I was embarrassed to ask for help. I was scared I would be a burden on my older friends and my dad. But mostly, I was embarrassed. If I couldn’t get it on the first, second, or even the third try, then it was easier to admit defeat than grow the balance and skill I needed to ride a two-wheeler.
My control was not all the great. The most I could do was hold the handlebars with my left hand and hook my prosthetic to the right handle. I needed more core balance and control with my left hand than my seven-year-old development skills could produce.
It was about that time I switched from a bike to a scooter. Not a dinky razor scooter like they have now. No, mine looked more like an off-roading scooter in comparison.
Big white wheels. Thick (think for 7-year-old, anyway), pink frame with a wide base to stand on. Big white handles with hand brakes similar to a bike’s.
I loved that scooter. It was pretty and badass all at the same time. It covered my weakness, but it also made me unique as the only scooter-rider on the block. It gave me the freedom to ride around with the other kids and be included. Riding a bike wasn’t as important to me as fitting in and being part of the group. I found the best way to keep up and still be me!
What I didn’t learn, was how to stick with something to grow a skill. I gave up early. Much like I’d had to do with writing, crafts and dance (and anything else requiring two hands), I found a work-around.
There’s always an easier way, right? Easier than working hard, practicing, developing muscle and skill. I was often looking for the work-around. I think the work-around is a skill that I’ve used to my advantage a little too much in life. I found it in more places than I should.
The work-around gets you to the desired result faster, but it fails to build character and patience along the way.
To this day, God is still growing in me the discipline of learning and growing through dedicated focus and effort. To be frank, I still don’t like it much. It hurts to grow muscles – even faith and character muscles. But, hard work does pay off. It is rewarding. It brings victory and joy and confidence.
Eventually, I did ride a two-wheeler. But it was with minimal effort almost 3 years later. Thus my avoidance of work became solidified. My work-around theories began growing and becoming more elaborate.
My character suffered for it. When I became old enough to drink I used the same, weak mindset telling myself, “Don’t worry you’ll grow out of it,” instead of actually feeling the pain of doing something about it.
How are you using a work-around to avoid growing pains on your journey?
|Ginny Priz is a Christian coach, author and speaker. Ginny has overcome her own drama with a prosthetic arm, alcohol, panic disorder, and codependency. She has a passion for guiding others toward the same peace and freedom she has come to experience. Ditching drama is possible for anyone “armed” with God and the Serenity Prayer! It’s never too late to start your own Serenity Journey.
Check out her book Ditch The Drama.
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